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Are you looking for a Connecticut wedding ceremony that's spiritual, not religious?
I cater to the unchurched. As a Life-Cycle Celebrant and nondenominational minister, I work with couples who want a ceremony that honors the sacredness of marriage without the requirements of religion.
Couples planning an elopement are usually looking for something "simple, sweet, and legal." While an elopement doesn't require a planning meeting or a rehearsal, I do like to have a phone call to make an energetic connection. More time is involved for couples planning a traditional Connecticut wedding - a phone call or email exchange, an in-person meeting, lots of questions, multiple drafts of the ceremony to make sure it reflects the couple's vision, rehearsal if needed, and performing the actual ceremony.
Some couples have an idea of what they want in a ceremony. Most do not. I tell them not to worry. Designing the ceremony is my job. I ask questions about language they do or don't want in their ceremony. I ask about potential family challenges and look for ways to diffuse, or at least mitigate, them.
When the challenge relates to religion, I've found resolution through the cultural, not religious, heritage of the couple's families - a Polish wedding ritual of dark bread and salt, a Chinese myth about the invisible red cord around the ankles of the couple destined to find each other, a Celtic handfasting ritual.
When the challenge relates to a family's "disapproval" of the couple's sexual orientation, I use the couple's love story to demonstrate what most families really want - for their child to be happy, to be loved. Here's an excerpt from an email I received from one of my couples:
"...I grew up in a small hamlet in the west of Ireland where there was no such thing as gay and I thought there was something wrong with me for years.... My brother who has always been understanding to a point, never really understood what my life was all about. He married a devout Catholic who, I suspect, associated gay with child abuse. To my surprise they both came to the wedding and my brother cried his way through the service. He came to me after and said you should go to Ireland teach them how to officiate and my sister-in-law was heard to say 'on the issue of Gay Marriage, the pope is wrong.' Zita, I will never be able to thank you enough for mending a rift that has been in my family for thirty years."
While I can't guarantee that kind of response, I can guarantee that whether you're planning an elopement or a traditional wedding, I'll walk you through the process and work hard to design a personal, respectful ceremony you'll want to remember.
In the end, your Connecticut wedding ceremony doesn't have to be religious to be spiritual, or traditional to be meaningful, or long to be memorable. But, the memories you make that day do need to last a lifetime. I'd be honored to help you do just that.
Vendor Category: Officiants